Building self-care into your life is awesome. So why are some people so damn upset about it!? Why other people do not always support our self-care choices and a reminder that your self-care is none of their business. Plus, how I have aged out of binge writing and my new habit practice. Time and time Read More »
You might not have time for self-care. And that’s perfectly okay. Remember our motto: No blame, no shame. Plus my new mantra and an update on outsourcing kitty litter responsibilities to a robot. Everyone is busy. I don’t think I know anyone who isn’t at least sometimes busier than they want to be or who Read More »
Letting yourself rest when sick is peak self-care If you find it hard to rest when you are sick, please consider this your permission slip to do so. Plus, how to pay this expectation forward to others and my lack of self-control with mystery novels. In the last ten days, a no-fun head cold has Read More »
Uncertainty, loss aversion & self-care Our fear of losing out can feel scarier than our happiness at gaining – even gaining well-being, balance, and peace. Plus a glimpse of the power of an N-committee. Self-care can be scary. We don’t acknowledge this enough – probably because the concept of self-care has been swept away in Read More »
Feeling like you don’t fit in? You don’t. A Sunday morning journey through bold statements, a smidgen of history, radical acceptance and (don’t worry) some concrete suggestions to cope with the existential despair this post might trigger. You might want a cup of tea for this one. People who resonate with the work we do Read More »
In this situation, do as I say not as I do… Yesterday I read a little book called How to Not Always Be Working by Marlee Grace. And by little, I mean in physical size only because this book packed some great punches about containing work and keeping space for ourselves and our wellness. This Read More »
There is no one-size-fits-all self-care. The key is figuring out what’s workable and replenishing for YOU. Most self-care advice (even in the published, peer-reviewed literature) focuses on specific activities: Mindfulness, exercise, sleep hygiene, connecting with friends, and on and on and on. One of the most frequent questions I receive when giving talks on self-care Read More »
This is the secret to self-care success* *Except “success” is terribly achievement focused, and we’re not here to “win” with self-care, so let’s be gentle with that phrasing In 2010 I began my “dream” tenure-track job as an Assistant Professor, and I was determined to approach my well-being differently than I had in graduate school Read More »
Or, alternative title, Don’t Find Yourself Throwing Out Hundreds of Dollars of Expensive Skin Care Products like me this week. This post starts with a story. When I was a young, newly minted Assistant Professor, I went through a phase where I was a connoisseur of skin care products. I also somehow had more disposable Read More »
Self-care is more than soothing. Wondering why your self-care isn’t working? You might be soothing instead. Soothing vs. Self-Care Soothing and self-care are two different (but related) things. Self-care is everything we do to replenish ourselves, personally and professionally. In contrast, soothing is any activity that calms us, lowers physiological overarousal, and makes us feel Read More »