{"id":667,"date":"2023-05-07T14:13:18","date_gmt":"2023-05-07T20:13:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/teachmeselfcare.com\/?p=667"},"modified":"2023-11-06T14:29:14","modified_gmt":"2023-11-06T20:29:14","slug":"stop-serving-your-space-make-it-serve-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/teachmeselfcare.com\/stop-serving-your-space-make-it-serve-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Serving Your Space; Make It Serve You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Making your space serve YOU.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Some notes on workability, encouragement to think outside the (space) box, a really awesome resource, and a note on moral neutrality.<\/p>\n\n\n

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A few years ago, I fell in love with KC Davis\u2019 Struggle Care website<\/a>, social media feeds, and book. I think a lot of you will love her work too. If you\u2019re looking for a good place to start exploring KC\u2019s work, I suggest you start with her explanation of what struggle care is<\/a>, including her description of spoon theory and six pillars of struggle care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A mind-blowing idea: Your space should serve you.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The first mind-blowing idea of KC\u2019s that I came across was that your (physical) space should serve you, not the other way around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What exactly does that mean? Instead of being a slave to your assumptions of how your physical space should work, cleaning, laundry, and chores, you make these things work for you instead<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Care tasks are morally neutral.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The second mind-blowing idea that KC promotes, which I encourage you to practice adopting immediately, <\/em>is that care tasks are morally neutral. There is no virtue in having a clean kitchen or your laundry folded.<\/strong> No sin is associated with having a sink full of dishes or not having washed your sheets forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everything Teach Me Self Care is heavily influenced by functional behaviouralism and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT). There are two important points influenced by these lenses that I want to share with you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. \u201cRight\u201d and \u201cwrong\u201d as labels applied to behaviour are unhelpful. Instead, what matters is if a specific behaviour is workable or unworkable<\/strong>.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. To know if a behaviour is workable, we need to know what is important to us (our values).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    (KC uses the label \u201cfunctional,\u201d which is another label for workable).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    In other words, you can structure your life, space, and care activities in whatever way works for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Some examples of making your space serve you.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    As I write this post, I am camped in my basement beside my washer and dryer. I intend to spend my entire day here. Why? Because it\u2019s the only way I\u2019ll get my laundry done. I am notorious, otherwise, for putting in a load of laundry, wandering away, remembering it two days later, and having to re-wash it\u2026. you get the drift. To prevent this, I park myself here and either work or read while I do laundry. Many people have seen me Zoom into a meeting from my (blurred out) basement!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Here are some other ways to make your space serve you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n